I’m a terrible blusher.
It’s not discrete.
My blush looks more like a blotchy rash that you could catch. It starts on my chest, runs up the left side of my neck and on to my face. It’s not the gorgeous rush of pink that most people have.
When I get embarrassed or nervous, the gross rash-like blush emerges and people start backing up, worried they might catch some kind of disease.
I’m sure you’re thinking “But how often can one gal blush? It can’t be THAT big of a deal?”
Actually, I blush quite a bit. I always tend to blush when I’m on stage in front of hundreds of people with lights shining upon me for the world to see.
Basically, the ABSOLUTE WORST time.
After hundreds of shows, this alien-like blush has not gone away. Over time, I learned that the blush was my secret weapon – the secret to make the crowd fall in love with you.
In my career as a musician, I have:
- Butchered songs
- Fallen off stage
- Forgotten words
- Had to sing with a puke bucket side stage (weird flu thing)
- Said the wrong thing
- Told jokes that fell flat
The list could go on.
You name it. I’ve botched it.
But when I botch it, the show always gets better.
Let me repeat that:
When I botched it. The audience loved me MORE.
The secret is people love to see you make mistakes.
Not because they want you to fail, but because they too make mistakes.
On stage, when I just about fall on my face or make a joke that is NOT funny, I can almost feel my audience’s anxiety. They are GLUED to me. When I make a mistake, I am suddenly FASCINATING. When they see that I brush my mistakes off by smiling and poking fun at myself, they relax into the show even more. The laughs are harder, the smiles broader and the toes tap in time.
Perfect is boring. It leads to a stale experience.
Sometimes there is a typo on your site, your website gives you shame, you’re horrified that you contacted a potential client and didn’t have all your ducks in a row, or you think that Facebook photo makes you look terrible.
Embrace that gross blotchy rash-like mistake.
Make it your thing.